Assignments are given to encourage growth both as individuals and as a couple.
I have seen many men and women devastated by such an experience.
Your own emotions are erratic, and it would be easy for you to get infatuated with anyone who treats you with dignity, respect, and warmth.
Have you noticed the number of people who get married the day after they are divorced? If the separation period is a time to seek reconciliation, why spend energy in an activity that leads to divorce and remarriage? We are still married while we are separated, and we ought to so live, whether or not our spouse complies.
I know this is difficult to accept, but I believe the present trend of open dating immediately after separation must be deterred.
Such activity encourages and contributes to the increasing divorce rate. Develop friends, but refuse romantic involvement until the fate of your marriage is determined.
If you believe in the power of human choice, then you must concede that your estranged spouse may well turn from his or her estrangement and seek reconciliation. The above article comes from the book, Hope For the Separated: Wounded Marriages Can Be Healed, written by Dr Gary Chapman, published by Moody Publishers.
This book deals with the question of dating while separated, how to relate to your children during this time, and ways to improve communication.
After several years of counseling the separated, I am more convinced than ever that Britton Wood is right. But most of those who are dating will never be reconciled. Dating is a prelude to remarriage, not therapy for reconciliation. You are extremely vulnerable during these days of separation.
” I first read that statement in Britton Wood’s book, . Wood has worked with singles and separated persons longer than anyone in his denomination. I know that dating while separated is accepted, even encouraged, in our society. You need people who care and help bear the load, but the dating context is not the best place to find such help.